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The doctor is late (again). And when she or he arrives, you probably won't get an apology. Don't you deserve one?
'Sorry' seems to be the hardest word
Seeded on Thu Jul 8, 2010 11:58 AM EDT
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So what makes saying sorry in these instances so hard? Some doctors may be so rushed that they don't even think about it. Some may think that their patients expect them to be 20 or 30 minutes late, so an apology isn't that important. If a patient first meets with a nurse or other office staff, it can be hard for a doctor to keep track of whether he's really late or not. Other doctors may not be comfortable apologizing in general, especially for such a seemingly minor thing. And, yes, there are those who simply don't care.
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#1 - Thu Jul 8, 2010 12:00 PM EDTI don't believe it is just doctors who have a hard time saying the word. It is one of those words that a lot of people have trouble saying the word. The S word is a word that mean we are the guilty party, sure we need to say it now and again, but in my opinion it is better to keep the peace than to do something your going to regret down the road and have to apologize for it.
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#2 - Thu Jul 8, 2010 12:39 PM EDTHaha, I'm marathoning Futurama on Netflix today and was reminded of the episode where Bender has a bomb in him that will detonate and destroy the planet if he says a certain word. They reprogrammed it so the trigger word was one he would never say. He thought the word was "sorry." XD
/it was "antiquing."
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OK... I just noticed something... "SORRY seems to be the hardest word" and
http://an-uncommon-scold.newsvine.com/_news/2010/07/08/4638564-not-everyone-hurts-the-same-way?last=1278607118&threadId=1006251&sp=0&pc=25#last_1
"Everybody hurts" SONG TITLES... sorry... My mind is wandering OFF today!!!! *GRIN*
As far as the word SORRY... I don't usually have too much problem saying it... but then I don't have really monstrous amounts of self-esteem anyway either!!! In a LOT of cases the "MALE EGO" tends to get in the way too... (Don't wanna look WEAK or anything) the problem here is that we can ONLY blame the "MALE EGO" if it's a GUY... but maybe just being a HUMAN BEING is enough... you just don't wanna admit you were WRONG (or even that you MAY have been wrong)...
#3 - Thu Jul 8, 2010 2:18 PM EDTIt can be scary to admit you were wrong. It's not so much about hurting the other person at that point but about dealing with yourself. If I admit I did X, that makes me a bad person in my own eyes. Am I strong enough to face myself anyway? Sometimes that's real hard.
In the case of doctors, they are treated like gods and while they are working, they are insulated from most everything other than their immediate task. They get used to not noticing how they are inconveniencing others. It doesn't occur to them to say they are sorry because the world revolves around them, not the other way around.
It's an occupational hazard. I have a friend who is a retired orthopedic surgeon. He told me he was catered to and deferred to all day at work, then came home expecting the same -- and didn't get it, of course. He didn't blame his family. He blamed himself and tried hard to adjust his "reality" differences between work and home but sometimes he didn't quite make it. Which meant he felt heavy duty guilt at those times.
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