Childhood memories of father have lasting impact on men's ability to handle stress

I think this explains my son's behavior. His father has been absent from his life from the age of 7. My son doesn't react well to stress, so this article explains a lot!

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When she wasn't absent (do to having to work), she was far from comforting. But that was who she was. My dad was gone when I was goin' thru puberty... Boy could I have used his advice back then. I may not have married, had a kid and gotten divorced, following in his footsteps. Maybe that's why my mom kept repeating her mantra: "Ur gonna end up to be a bum, just like ur dad".

Women used to stress me out when I was 'younger', then I found the stress relief "button"!

Only men?

I grew up with a father who's answer to everything was the back of his hand. Mother wasn't much better then him. Today I've got a loving wife, almost 20 years, 6 stable kids, and a mess of grand kids. I broke the cycle of violence in our family. Oh, and I don't get stress...I give it.

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We had six kids because that's what BOTH of us wanted. How do you feel it was abusive? All the kids were loved and cared for. Corrected when they needed it, praised when they were good, and encouraged to do, or be, whatever they wanted. Our choice of life style worked very good. All the kids are grown now with children of their own.

But we also taught the kids to not worry about what other people think. The choice was ours.