Unpleasant People May Be More Prone to Stroke, Heart Attack

I've been through a few of the antagonistic types and some check out pretty fast while others seemingly live forever. The bottom line is they live and thrive on negativity. They are afraid to be happy for various reasons. They are trying to keep everyone away so they can prove they are not worthy or that no one cares for them. However being around people such as this is very difficult and they can suck the middle right out of a healthy person. I guess in some ways we can be our own worst enemy. So if a person approaches another and they turn tail and run the negative being should give themselves a "thought" checkup. Chances are the spew garbage and never see anything beautiful in life.

These type of personalities can have an effect on the people they live with. I know, I live with one and I really have to stop myself from being negative. I now listen to a lot of music to not feed into the negative vibes.

I find that taking breaks from things help. Take a break from the vine. Try primal scream therapy. Take a break from sitting. Take a break from forcefully thinking and allow the mind a mini day dream. If stress tries to overwhelm I find a non-fiction book a good way to release it. It restarts my imagination and the stress has no hold. Laughter is a wonderful release. I think it was Winston Churchill that said something along the lines of (trying to remember from 30+ years ago) "Laughter is the sunshine of the soul, without laughter, nothing can live or grow".

I'm for all your suggestions Pacific Northwest Blogger as I am one to make everything a comedy if possible. A friend just called me and we were discussing the death of his mother and my sister and we agreed that the Vengeance the dead play on us is leaving us their crap. I feel that life is a cycle and we truly just need to get over ourselves. Laugh or die take your pick and I'd much better laugh. I'd hate to walk around dead before I died.

Shannoscubie working with someone as you describe is horrendous putting it mildly. I worked with one that wouldn't speak to me for months and we had to communicate with one another. She kept trying to trip me up but in the end she got her butt kicked. Some take such extreme liberties it truly is profound and so very strange a person like this could walk the earth and not disenegrate before our very eyes with their resentment and hate.

Thanks, js. It's taken me a while, but I eventually got to a place of just being as positive as I can and as CLEAR with communicating as I can. For instance, I got an email from this person that he wanted a thing done "first thing in the morning" on X day, which I took to mean that, on X day, I could get it done for him right after I got there on that day. But no. On X day, first thing in the morning, I got a crappy email explaining how he'd come in the night before expecting me to have done what he wanted, and now he was all pissed off. Because...? I didn't read his mind and know that "I want it first thing in the morning" actually meant "I actually need it the day before."

Tip of the iceberg, really. I think the guy as Aspergers issues so I try to cut some slack and not take it personally, but it gets hard sometimes when he says things like "I know you put MY work at low priority..."

Well, dude...No, I'm actually really busy. But if I were petty and immature enough to actually DO that, I'd actually tell you "Yeah, I do put all your work at the bottom of my stack because you're such a jackass!"

Way Girl, I've worked with the type. I think they have a whip in the back room to punish themselves every half hour or so to keep up with their self-pity and abominations for their sacrifices for others. They are basically jackasses and they are really good at their jobs.