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Article Source: Times of IndiaA good chat enough to improve women's sex lives
Women with low sex drive might only need to talk about their problems to improve their love life, according to a new study.
Scientists discovered that a third of women who talked with doctors about sexual dysfunction later reported a greater satisfaction with their sex lives.
The discovery was made after 200 women in the US took part in a clinical trial for a drug treatment aimed at helping those with female sexual dysfunction.
They researchers found that a third of the women who took the fake pill reported increased sexual arousal and satisfaction with their sex lives.
The women were not told they had taken a fake pill, but researchers concluded talking with a doctor about their problems had been a significant factor.
"All women in this study did have a chance to speak to a health care professional who listened to their concerns and, most importantly, took them seriously and really listened to what their concerns were," the Daily Mail quoted said Dr Bradford who conducted the study.
"It may be that their behaviour changed as part of getting treatment, even if the treatment itself was an inert tablet," Bradford added.
#1 - Sat Sep 18, 2010 3:49 AM EDToh.....a chat with the doctor. I know that a little chat about what he's going to do to me while nibbling my ear and neck, always helps my sex life.......
#2 - Sat Sep 18, 2010 4:25 PM EDTI believe that most women with low libido usually suffer from partners that are not in tune with their needs. If partners are not willing to put out and effort to court and focus upon each other at times other than to initiate sex they often feel disappointed when being intimate. Although I think it is good to find someone to talk to about this situation I believe that attitude and experience can make or break desire.
True. I also think that exhaustion plays a big part for many women. For others, it could also be the result of trauma.
I was watching Larry King Live last night. He had several brain specialists on. They said that research has shown that PTSD and other emotional trauma does physical damage to our brains. They emphasized this could be prevented if the victim gets adequate therapy, but how many don't?
It is very sad when someone does not seek help for conditions that could be turned around to some extent. I agree that exhaustion and trauma are contributing factors however when a woman feels she has no backup and finds no compassion or passion from a mate unless he is initiating the sexual act often becomes a turn off due to (justified) resentment. I've experienced this type of mate and the situation was continually frustrating as they expected me to do everything on my own without contributing then complain if I was not in the "mood". Well, let me tell you when my guy came home only complain criticize ask "what's for dinner" and is in a foul mood I found this behavior a barrier to sexual stimulation. I was more tempted to put him in time out than to make love because he was not loveable at all with his attitude and actions.
Women often get blamed for not being better lovers not being able to reach orgasm and hundreds of other complaints but I think it works both ways so if a man is dissatisfied he'd be better off examining his behavior than criticizing his lover's.
When I was married, we were going to a marriage counselor. I told her that he would come into the kitchen when I was cooking, handling hot food, etc and start grabbing at me or dry humping me from behind, that he wouldn't quit and then he'd complain later when I was not in the mood because he was so disrepectful. It was a horrid turn-off, especially since he wasn't good in bed anyway.
She said he was doing it on purpose so I would be upset and would turn him down. That way, he could pretend he really wanted sex, and it was all my fault that we didn't have any.
I understand that one Loretta and always wondered how many hours a man could spend trying to think of ways to blame his horrible life on his partner.
JS & Loretta -- sounds like subconscious gynophobia combined with immature selfishness to me.
#3 - Sun Sep 19, 2010 1:54 PM EDTThank goodness not all men are incapable of stepping up and knowing who they are before immersing themselves in a serious relationship. I know that as a parent I have attempted to teach my son and daughters that they must take sole responsibility for their thoughts and actions. There is no room for the blame game and if your experiences in life are leaving you discontent find some new experiences. Battles are battles and when humans use each other for battering rams in words and actions nobody wins.
I love the way you put that. Hadn't thought about that word -- gynophobia -- in a long time.
It is also narcissism and domestic abuse. People tend to think of domestic abuse as physical violence because that is when the cops get involved, but emotional violence is much more common. The psychic trauma inflicted stays with the victims over decades, long after most of the physical injuries have healed completely. Many abusive relationships never escalate to physical violence, but she's just as trapped by his abuse.
In the case of my husband, that was just part of the intense emotional violence he inflicted upon me on a constant basis. He escalated into physical violence. I still (forty years later) have a chronic back injury that never healed completely, but the emotional trauma hurt far worse.
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